What goes in must come out. Mustn't it?
It is a blessing that most things which enter our bodies eventually find their way out again. Can you imagine the problems that we would have if some things didn’t!
People can and do vary in their eagerness to speed up the removal of such unwelcome visitors. This removal process ranges from antibiotics for infections, devices for removing splinters, liposuction for fat, (people can also take large quantities of laxatives to hopefully rid themselves of food consumed) surgery for shrapnel and things obviously become more imperative and urgent when tumours, cancers and growths are involved. Such things simply cannot stay in our bodies and quite often people are desperate to get them out and get them out for good wishing them never to come back.
Strangely enough this doesn’t always apply though when it comes to emotions, feelings, trauma and hurt, in fact a quite different set of rules seem to apply. This ranges from them being allowed to seep out at times of extreme emotional overload to emotions being suppressed, contained and denied, sometimes for decades. Alcohol can act as a catalyst to expressing feelings also at times the smallest of things can be the final straw and people can explode.
I understand the concerns that can be had about displaying how we feel and the consequences that can be feared as a result. Yet containment of strong emotions especially negative ones is definitely not sustainable long term. Emotions that are stored up do not reduce in intensity or go away, true, they may lay dormant although it can only take one small trigger to ignite them. Suppressed emotions lay in wait, growing in threat, waiting to pounce!
If you feel you don't know how to express your feelings it doesn't matter, there is no right or wrong way. The main thing is that you don’t allow them to take up residence, some people give them entire suites to live and thrive in and then wonder why they feel awful.
Finding a balance is often at the heart of overcoming anxiety, depression and most emotional struggles, stuff happens to us and our balance, our equilibrium, becomes fragmented. Internally our balance is crying out to return to a sense of harmony although it is often thwarted by a wasteland of unexpressed emotional pain and hurt.
You can't afford to wait until you have to go through the emotional equivalent of vomiting! Not if you want to move on, feel better and happier that is.
Just to say in case I need to, I am not at all suggesting that we turn into human emotional blancmanges, just that our emotional digestive system has a productive metabolism.
1. Contain and suppress emotions at your peril.
2. Leave yourself actually more vulnerable (than if you expressed them) by allowing emotions to fester.
3. Hinder your chances of finding your precious balance.
Simply put, just don't allow yourself to be a car park for emotional wreckage, if you do expect your life to get wheel clamped!